Will teachers ever be the respected members of society again? Will they regain the authority that they have lost? Will students ever look up to their teacher as the leader in the classroom or are we at the end of an era?

Students know that teachers can't do anything about disruptive behavior. I've been in several classrooms over the past 25 years and nothing is more disheartening than to have a student tell a teacher, "I'm not going to do that and you can't make me." The sad part is .... they're right and they know it. Students knew (even before teachers did) that teachers don't really have any authority. A teacher can send them to the office. But will their decision be supported? A teacher can take away recess, but it only takes one phone call from a parent and the decision is reversed.

  I don't think that students (or some parents) really get why teachers teach. It isn't for the summers off or the pay. It isn't because we want to establish our reign of authority. It isn't because we want to engage in a battle with weak administrators or enabling parents. These situations bring us no joy (they do bring on sleepless nights and ulcers).

We teach because we believe in education and we love to find ways to make learning enjoyable. When we make a request, it isn't for our benefit. It is for the benefit of our students. We know that a student that disrupts class, doesn't listen, or doesn't complete assignments is headed for failure. We want to make our students successes. Not failures.

There I said it. Failure. Some people are afraid to say it, but we are all thinking it in some corner of our minds. We know that not every student will succeed. We know that some will fail. And, more than anything, we want to prevent that. We know that giving students power or enabling them will eventually lead to their failure. Empowerment and enabling will not make a child successful. It only slows down the inevitable.

Bringing respect back into the classroom will turn things around. Teachers will be free to establish reasonable perimeters and expectations and students will learn. Even those with learning or behavioral difficulties will have a level of success in a structured classroom.  Students will learn responsibility because it is  modeled and expected daily.   Students actually prefer a structured classroom over complete chaos.  They are more comfortable when they know what is expected and that they will receive assistance getting there. Nothing is scarier to a student than navigating uncharted waters without a guide.  I've heard it time and again- straight from the mouths of babes.

Giving teachers true authority (and not just lip service) would have another benefit.... content teachers  who flourish in a system that is no longer broken.



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I read an interesting article earlier this week. It was about teaching children to listen and stated that children do not have good listening skills or good behavior because they have been taught that listening and following directions is not important.  The article went on to say that adults have trained children that disobedience is not a big deal because there are no consequences. Parents are too busy saying, "The next time you do that you will...," but next time never comes. The child continues with the inappropriate behavior, but never has a consequence.  I thought back through my years of teaching and realized that most of my students were shocked that next time was an actual event. Next time did, in fact, come.

Does our lack of follow-through teach our children that there is not a consequence for unacceptable behavior? I've given this a lot of thought since reading the article and I have decided that the answer  is yes. Previously, I have never given this much thought. I never sat down and pondered the reason that kids act the way that they do. I have thought schools were veering too far from the old "rules of discipline" to be effective. I have thought that students need to have 'bad' behavior corrected rather than rewarding acceptable behavior.  "New" methods of discipline don't make a lot of sense to me. It never made any sense to give a child a reward for listening in class. They were supposed to listen. My parents didn't give me a reward for obeying them. I was supposed to do what they told me to do.

 This topic was discussed many times during my years in public education. It was called positive behavior.  Recognizing positive behavior is great, but let's not take it overboard. And, let's stop ignoring the child who needs guidance in learning right from wrong. We keep rewarding darling little Susie for being a good listener hoping that talkative, disruptive Kim will figure out that her behavior isn't acceptable.  Let me tell you from personal experience, I never cared that the teacher praised the 'good' kids. I was having way too much fun being the social butterfly. I loved being the center of attention and making other people laugh. Having the teacher praise me or give me a lunch pass to move to the head of the line wasn't good enough. There wasn't a trade-off that would have gotten my attention. There was only thing that did stop me in my tracks.  Next time. It came and it went, but it left me a changed person. I learned that my  behavior choice had a consequence. One that I didn't like. A consequence that made me want to change my behavior.

Children today (and when I was a kid and for all eternity) feel like what they have to say is the most important thing in the world. My mentoring teacher gave me gold when she told me that when she began a lesson she stated that they should listen the first time because what she had to say was important and she would not repeat it for those who made the choice to not listen. Her students listened because they were expected to listen. They couldn't say that they didn't hear her say they should do this or not do that because she held them accountable.  And, that is the key. Accountability. Follow Through. You listen, follow directions, act in a manner that is acceptable to society, and you have the reward of learning and growing into a responsible adult. OR, you make the choice to do things your way and  ignore the directions and you have an encounter with Next Time.

Kids need structure and they need directions. They also need consequences and expectations.  They need a Next Time.



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My first sassy little response would be... "Anytime I feel like saying no," but the truth is we've all been put in the position of feeling obligated.  We hear our mouths saying, "Yes" when our hearts are saying, "No." We see a need, we are asked to fill it, and Bam! we say yes and instantly regret our response.  Then we struggle with guilt.

I've been dealing with this struggle for some time. I hate to say no and feel like the bad guy. I don't want to be selfish or lazy or a non-team player so I say yes and find myself overwhelmed.  We took a much needed get-away last week. No phone. No internet. No people. Just each other in a quiet place. A place to rest and enjoy the gift of God's creation. It was just what the doctor ordered! The responsibilities met me as I walked back through the door when we arrived home, but I had strength to draw on. And, I had a new resolve to find some balance and peace in my everyday life.

Making time for ourselves is not something we think we can or should do, but it is absolutely necessary.  For years, on Wednesday night my husband went to a Bible study and I stayed home to have Kim time. Just a couple of hours, but it really put a lightness in my step. I was ready for Thursday and Friday. I could make it through the rest of the week.   Now, that I am semi-retired, I don't have Kim time. I let myself feel that it wasn't necessary. After all, I was semi-retired, any time could be Kim time. But... I never allowed myself to have it. I didn't think I deserved it and I felt that any extra time I had (I'm still looking for extra time) should be spent saying yes to everyone with a request.  I was wrong.

Saying no is not easy, but I am learning the importance of learning to set aside some time for myself. I am learning that saying no doesn't mean I don't care or I won't help, it just means that I won't allow myself to be forced to do something that I really don't have time to do just because I'll feel guilty if I don't. If I am asked to help with an event, but the evening of the event isn't convenient for me, I will say no, but offer to help in some other way on a day that I am available. In some cases, a simple no will have to do.

Saying yes sometimes carries over to our jobs (okay, a lot of the time). We feel that we are in a position to say yes because we lack the confidence and security to say no. Saying no to a boss is a lot different than saying no to a PTO mom or church member. It shouldn't be, but the truth is... bosses can make us feel extra guilty for saying no. In some situations they can even make you feel like your job depends on it. I don't know what to say about those situations.  Personally, a situation like this is when it was time to be slow in answering and quick on praying.

I can't tell you when to say no. Only you know your limitations. But, I can say that you shouldn't feel guilty or threatened when you do decide that the best response is no.  How you respond is your choice.  A wise friend told me years ago, " Your response is your choice, just make sure that you can live with the outcome." Good advice.


Have a blessed Easter. And, hopefully some time to rest.


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